|Wedding day August 18, 2001|
1) Your relentless pursuit of God.
First and foremost, this is what makes our marriage work. Your passion for the Lord continually challenges me. And your intimacy with Him brings life to our marriage and family. You maintain your “first love” and that brings much vibrancy into every other aspect of your life. Thank you hon for keeping Christ as the supreme priority, your driving force, your reason for living. Your growth in the fruit of the spirit is unquestionable and we your family benefit greatly from your heart that seeks God above all else.
2) Your relentless pursuit of me.
When it would be so much easier to let distance and resentment creep in at times, you are determined in tirelessly pursuing reconciliation and healing in our relationship! You romance me. You strive to understand me. You forgive me. You spoil me. You seek to delight my heart. You love me. Unconditionally.
3) Your leadership of our family.
Not a job for the faint of heart. Our life with six kids and ministry and travel and the physical and financial demands of this lifestyle make my head spin sometimes. But you take it all in stride. Always calm, cool and collected. Unwavering.
I love more than anything to see you interacting with our children and discipling their hearts. Your individual attention to growing their gifts and fostering their relationships with Jesus is invaluable. The spiritual leadership of our family and your intentional goals for our kids and our marriage give me great hope and anticipation!
4) Your friendship.
Your capacity for people is not large. In contrast to me, (the social butterfly), you are content with just a few close relationships. I cherish the fact that I am among those. Your selectivity in relationships and your dedication to ours makes me feel like the queen of your castle. There is no doubt in my mind that Im your best friend and I feel like a million bucks because of that! I love that you choose to spend time with me. That you share yourself so vulnerably. That we feel safe sharing our greatest struggles and celebrating each others victories. That out of this wide world, you chose me and choose me daily!
There is no one Id rather be fighting with, laughing with, and walking life hand-in-hand with!
5) You turn me on.
Eleven years, baby! After four-thousand-fifteen days and nights as your wife, you’re still the one! I find my greatest solace in your arms and wake up delighted to see you next to me. Your hand in mine still fits just right and my heart still skips a beat when I catch your eye across a crowded room. I find you more attractive today than the day I married you, and I cant wait to grow old together!
6) Your work ethic.
You are an incredibly hard worker! No one who knows you would question this one. You are driven and gifted. Your abilities and capacities give you an incredible platform for influence and you are dedicated to the people, projects and provisions you responsible for. You sacrifice yourself to see that things are done and done right. Your ability to function with jet lag and to give up time, resources and sleep are truly gifts that are uniquely yours! Our son has an amazing example of a leader, husband and father in you!
7) Your generosity.
I love to see you give. You are an incredibly sacrificial person not only with your finances, but with your time and energy as well. Often, I am the recipient of those sacrifices. Other times, I am blessed to stand back and watch others receive the gifts of your labor and love. “To whom much is given, much is required”. I see you exemplifying this beautifully to your children and I. You manage your resources in a way that lets you be a blessing to others.
8) Your quirks.
I cant complain….not really. Your intolerance for clutter and your neat-freak tendencies make life with all the clamor and activity of our home a very unique challenge. And it cramps this creative girls style sometimes. But, as you are quick to remind me, its far better than the alternative!
All joking aside, I am so grateful for the ways you complement me and help maintain an orderly home and lifestyle. Lots of girls would love to have a husband who picks up his dirty laundry…..and hers! 🙂
9) You complete me.
Sure its cliché, but its true! We have laughed often that if we were to take one of those “compatibility” tests on a dating website, we probably would never be “matched”. We are so complexly different and it presents unique challenges! But the things that truly matter, are beautifully in harmony. Our differences make us assets to each other. Its a delicate balance, but we are learning the intricate steps of this dance! Learning to dance means there are ‘stepped on toes’ sometimes, but thats happening less frequently. There are many opportunities to extend grace to one another and to draw from His perfect love in this marriage that He is ‘perfecting”.
10) Your care of us.
You manage it all so seemingly effortlessly. The finances. The yard. The technology that I use and benefit from, but would be entirely lost on how to navigate if left to my own to figure it out. My friends are envious that I have a husband with impeccable taste who likes to shop for me….who does that?!
What may not be common knowledge to many who know you is your ability to cook. Your omelets have become a bit of a legend and your girls get excited when Daddy gets the wok out to make stir-fry. You are often willing to run school drop-off and pick-up to give me a break. And on days when my sanity is hanging on by a thread, I know you’ll step-up and help me get through.
|Key West 2012|
11) You give me much to look forward to.
Our “second honeymoon” to Key West this spring was a little taste of whats to come. While I would never wish away a millisecond of this chapter of our life, I know we have so much to look forward to. The craziness of life with 6 little ones is not conducive to a lot of uninterrupted conversation. We often find a kid or two sandwiched between us in our big king bed when we wake up in the morning. And on the rare occasion that we do get out on a date, the effort of getting kids fed and packed and placed at grandmas beforehand usually means Im just a hot mess when we sit down to order our food.
But someday, it will just be the two of us hon. Someday, we will get that cabana on the beach. And someday, those sunsets will be ours to walk into, hand-in-hand!